This is over due as I’ve been busy trying to get myself ready to go to Edmonton to start The Drowsy Chaperone. But almost two weeks ago, I had the most extraordinary experience. I went to my first traditional Jewish gay wedding. It was a friend and his fiance. About 200 people. They had researched and searched ancient Jewish texts and found real, text-based foundations for a true union that didn’t specify male/female. They wanted it to be a traditional Jewish wedding. Their mothers made the chuppah (the beautiful held awning – my word – that the fiances stand under as they get married) and it was beautiful. It had the names of the families on it, including the deceased grandparents of my friends fiance. The ceremony itself was beautiful and moving but what was even more extraordinary to me is that here were these two gay men getting married and their whole families were there. My friends elderly Jewish grandparents were there – BOTH SETS – and they were so happy and weeping. There were cousins, and brothers and sisters. All of them so happy for these two boys. Then there was the amazing reception. My God.
And the speeches were so beautiful. The grandparents spoke. The parents each welcomed their new son-in-law into their lives with such happiness and acceptance. The young cousins got up and sang a song and read from some texts. The best friends got up and told stories. The siblings got up and did mini roasts. I have rarely been in a room where such love was flowing. These boys were so protected and loved and respected by their families. It was inspirational. It gave me hope for a world where tolerance and acceptance is still a little shaky.
It made me think of all of those people who had a problem with gay marriage in Canada. I’d like to know now, how have the lives of those people with issues changed? Has it done anything to their quality of life? How does two people who want to commit to each other for life – two people that they don’t even know or have anything to do with – have any affect on their life? I never understood that. We’ve had gay marriage for how many years now and has the world stopped? Has straight marriage become “less meaningful” in the years following the passing of the new laws? My god, in a world where love is sometimes struggling to live, why dim your own humanity by trying to shut down love in someone else’s life who you don’t even know.
That’s all, y’all.